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Tarot isn’t a crystal ball. It’s not your therapist, your guru, or your decision-maker. It is a mirror. A portal. A symbolic language that speaks through archetype and energy, whispering what your conscious mind may struggle to hear. But in our need for certainty, for escape, or control, we often misuse it. We come to the cards with questions that not only limit their power but disempower us.
This isn’t judgment it’s a wake-up call.
If you’re reading this, chances are you already feel the pull. The hum of fate meeting free will. The shiver of something sacred when the cards fall just right. So, let’s talk about the kinds of questions that break the spell, that cloud the reading, and what to ask instead if you want truth, clarity, and transformation.
Here are 10 questions we should stop asking the tarot and how to reframe them into something real, raw, and resonant.
1. “Does he/she love me?”
Why it’s not helpful: This is passive. It gives your power away and makes you a bystander in your own emotional world. You’re outsourcing your self-worth.
Ask instead: “What is the true dynamic between me and this person? What is being mirrored back to me in this connection?”
Why this works: It gives space for nuanced insight into both you and them. Love is complex. Tarot shines when you let it show layers.
2. “Will I get the job?”
Why it’s not helpful: It treats tarot like a yes/no oracle, which flattens the depth of its insight. Also, it assumes a single timeline, when in truth, outcomes shift with your choices.
Ask instead: “What energies are influencing my job prospects? How can I align with the best outcome in my career?”
Why this works: Tarot is meant to read the present moment the energetic weather. Change direction, and the forecast shifts too.
3. “When will I meet my soulmate?”
Why it’s not helpful: Time questions are tricky. Tarot speaks in symbols, not clocks. Besides, this question assumes your future is fixed, your happiness dependent on someone else’s arrival.
Ask instead: “What inner work or energy shift is needed for me to attract a deeply aligned relationship?”
Why this works: You get to co-create your destiny. Tarot helps you prepare the ground for love to flourish.
4. “Is this the right decision?”
Why it’s not helpful: Again, you’re asking the cards to choose for you. But tarot doesn’t want to make your choices it wants to illuminate them.
Ask instead: “What are the likely outcomes of each choice before me? What am I not seeing clearly about this decision?”
Why this works: You remain sovereign. The cards become a compass, not a command.
5. “Will I be rich/famous/successful?”
Why it’s not helpful: Success is subjective. And this question implies passivity, waiting for fate instead of forging it.
Ask instead: “What strengths can I cultivate to create success? What blocks are keeping me from my full potential?”
Why this works: Tarot wants you to rise. Not dream. Do.
6. “Is someone doing magic/evil against me?”
Why it’s not helpful: While spiritual attack is real in some traditions, this question often stems from fear, not intuition. It promotes paranoia and victim thinking.
Ask instead: “What energies are influencing me right now? How can I protect and cleanse myself?”
Why this works: This brings the focus back to your agency. Your energetic hygiene. Your power.
7. “Should I stay or leave?”
Why it’s not helpful: It wants a binary answer to an emotional labyrinth. You’re asking the cards to take responsibility for your heart.
Ask instead: “What are the emotional, spiritual, and practical consequences of staying? And of leaving? What does my soul need right now?”
Why this works: It gives space for complexity, transition, and truth.
8. “What is going to happen to me?”
Why it’s not helpful: It puts you in the passenger seat of your own life. Tarot doesn’t dictate. It reflects. And you can change the reflection at any time.
Ask instead: “What current patterns are shaping my future? What can I shift to change the trajectory of my life?”
Why this works: You reclaim authorship. You engage fate instead of fearing it.
9. “Is my ex coming back?”
Why it’s not helpful: It keeps you stuck in the past. It hooks your healing to someone else’s return. That’s not love—that’s limbo.
Ask instead: “What am I meant to learn from this past relationship? What energy do I need to release to move forward?”
Why this works: Healing isn’t about reuniting. It’s about returning to yourself.
10. “What are they thinking about me?”
Why it’s not helpful: Tarot can’t (and shouldn’t) invade someone else’s mind. You’re asking about them to avoid looking at your own needs, fears, and truths.
Ask instead: “What do I need to know about this connection? What boundaries or clarity do I need?”
Why this works: It centers you. Your intuition. Your reality.
What Tarot Really Does
Tarot is a snapshot of the energy around you. It doesn’t fix your life, but it reflects your life. And like a mirror, it will show you both light and shadow. It doesn’t predict a fixed fate it reveals probabilities, patterns, and paths.
You change direction, the cards change their message. You heal; the patterns shift. You decide, the future rewrites itself.
Tarot is a dance between fate and free will. Some things are destined, yes. But destiny isn’t always what happens to you. Sometimes it’s what happens through you, when you rise up and answer the call. Tarot helps you hear that call more clearly.
Where Fate Meets Free Will
This is the paradox: not everything is predetermined, but not everything is random. There are threads of karma, ancestral energy, soul contracts. But you also have choice. Will. Courage.
Tarot meets you in the space between. It shows you the crossroads. It doesn’t push you down a path it lights the way.
You always have the final word.
So, stop asking the cards to rescue you. Stop begging them to read minds or map futures set in stone. Ask instead for truth. For guidance. For reflection. Ask them to show you who you really are beneath the noise.
The cards are not gods. But they are sacred.
Treat them with reverence, and they will reveal mysteries you never dreamed of.
And if you dare really dare to meet your own gaze in the mirror they hold up, you might just find your power waiting there.
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Because the answers were never outside you. They were waiting for you to ask the right question.
Raw. Real. Reflective. That’s the power of tarot.
